Desexualization
I attribute a significant % of all things good in my life to desexualization.
I attribute almost all bad experiences in my life to sexualization.
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Desexualization is a foreign concept in modern times, but it carries ancient wisdom from the beginning of humanity.
"The desire for sexual expression is by far the strongest and most impelling of all the human emotions, and for this very reason, this desire, when harnessed and transmuted into action other than that of physical expression, may raise one to great accomplishment."
~ Napoleon Hill, Author of Think and Grow Rich
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Friend, let me ask you: do you realize that, at its core, if you trace the money and energy, the world is now influenced almost entirely by the sex and porn industry?
Do you realize that at the very top, the highest power, fame, and wealth, all they do is use that to enjoy some insane, distorted sex, mostly driven by men.
Humans have never changed the most primitive nature in our core being throughout history. We did become intellectually smarter, though, which increased our confidence and reliance on ourselves.
The largest systems and physical forces in the world were always mostly driven by extreme perverse sex at the highest levels of power and wealth: China, Egypt, India, Greece, Rome, Mesopotamia (Sumer, Babylon, Assyria), Medieval Europe, Early and Modern Europe.
Ask ChatGPT in deep research mode: “summarize the world’s most extreme and extravagant sexual behaviors, debauchery.”
Jeffrey Epstein is just a tiny tip of the iceberg.
All world powers and money at the highest level are related to the sexual energy of men.
Do you think the sex and porn industry cares about men’s physical and mental health?
Forget about physical and mental health for a second, do you think they care about women in general? Beyond seeing them as sex objects for pleasure?
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When I realized I was being brainwashed since childhood, I became enraged.
I decided to brainwash myself back to my original design as a man.
Back to Adam.
And in that process, fight these forces that brainwashed me, attacking them with the Sword of the Spirit.
When my eyes slowly opened, I saw many marginalized men who are invisible to women, who are lonely, who want a connection with the feminine.
When I saw their suffering, I became even more enraged and decided to fight for these men. I fight by giving away free content I produce here and share on the internet.
Andrew Tate is just a byproduct of these forces at play. He's simply a tool being used by the true enemy. We should pray for this guy. We should love and see Andrew Tate and all the extreme anti-woke people as God would. Love unconditionally with meekness but not weakness.
Red Pill is also just a byproduct. Its effectiveness is only due to human failures by both men and women.
Just so you know how broken I was before my eyes were opened: I was quite red pill from around May 2022 to Dec 2024.
I supported Andrew Tate, Elon Musk, and Trump for the most part. I didn’t agree with some things they did or were doing, but I made excuses for them, thinking that at their core, they were right and doing the right thing in the end, and were better than alternatives.
I’m serious.
I clearly did not have the gift of seeing false prophets and Antichrists at the time.
I drifted away from Truth as soon as I uploaded the last long-form video to Binary Strength and stopped working on it in May 2022. I focused instead on pursuing sexual pleasure, making many excuses for myself along the way.
I thought I would never get married again.
I thought relationships without the intent to marry were fine.
I thought I went through so much pain in my divorce that I deserve to have some fun and be liked by women for who I am and not just what I do and what I bring to the table. I wanted to know what it feels like to be with a woman without feeling like a slave all the time.
I dated with extreme intensity to find a “feeling”.
The eventual result is that I almost died by voices in my head telling me to kill myself with a knife, with very graphic visualizations. These voices were never in someone else's voice because they know that we would realize it's not our thoughts. They prioritize using their powers to be in our own voice because they are crafty beings of the father of lies (more on this later). It's not random coincidences that human history and current journals all record humans hearing voices or being compelled to do things that they typically do not do.
God pulled me out. I started waking up in December 2024 when I began testing if all that was related to sexualization.
Before waking up through desexualization, I faced great physical and mental health issues stemming from this single habit of pornography use and promiscuity with women through casual sex from early 2023 to the end of 2024. I did this even with the most devoted Christian girl I've met at the time...we're all just broken people. We've both genuinely repented after realizing our wrongs. This probably had some serious effects on our fate, in the form of life on earth, that we may never know.
Casualness leads to casualties.
My symptoms were not noticeable at first, but they suddenly came like a whirlwind, and I had no idea what was happening. God saved me. It wasn't the first time He did it, but I didn't even realize at the time. Nothing made sense until I pieced it all together, not through my own wisdom but through divine Wisdom granted through extreme obedience. I'm not perfect, but it seems like God truly does not care about "religion". He's after our hearts. He cares about our intentions and cares about whether we are trying or not. It's exactly as the Bible says.
When I saw that the men around me, including some of my closest friends, were suffering from the same thing, where their brain’s gray matter was being destroyed, I became extremely enraged.
Sadly, forces at play prevent the medical industry from caring about this, so if you believe that it’s a pure physical issue that can be treated with drugs, then you risk not discovering the root cause.
If you're a man, and you can no longer feel as alive, awake, and full of life as you did at age five, and you watch porn or engage in casual sex at least once a week, or if you’ve always treated sex mainly as physical pleasure, then keep reading because you’re able to gain something extremely powerful to improve your entire life.
By my estimate, the vast majority of men's mental health and a significant amount of physical health issues post-internet are attributed to porn, including diabetes and cancer, since porn, drugs, and food abuse are connected as pleasures of the flesh. If you can master one, you can master all. I did it and am still doing it right now, and I know many others in communities online are doing the same. It's completely doable. But most men cannot even master one. I am not ok with this.
Don't watch this if you're ok with being used like like a tool
Your Brain on Porn
If you're a man and you don't know this, it means you're still under the influence of the strongest brainwashing I have ever seen.
I experienced how destructive this is to my own brain.
I saw how destructive this is to countless others' brains, including friends'.
I don't think we should just sit still, be docile, and let these forces brainwash us.
Seeing women for who they really are
To be clear, I like women, possibly more than the average person.
But now I like them for who they are.
Not just their faces and bodies.
Not just physical appearance.
At my current state, which I thought was impossible to reach, when I meet a woman for the first time, her appearance is not the first thing I notice, and is often the last thing that gets processed in my head. This happens even when, objectively, she's purposely seeking attention.
When a woman does not appear similar to today's popular standards of beauty defined by filth on TikTok and Instagram, I can't help but want to draw closer to her and let her know that I see her and that she is perfectly good the way she is, even if she does not feel that way. I can't really explain the feeling in words. There are multiple expressions of emotions felt at the same time when I resonate, including pure indignation at a world that causes women to feel invisible for any reason. The Father is furious that His daughters are hurt.
Why do you think some women, and even young girls, now have mental health issues and contemplate suicide because they don't feel they can live up to the ideals they were brainwashed to believe?
It's not humans. It's dark forces that love human suffering.
I believe this with certainty:
The female body types we now glorify—porn star curves, exaggerated features like those popularized by Kim Kardashian—were not what men were naturally drawn to long ago.
Something shifted.
My spirit tells me this wasn’t evolution.
It was programming.
Powerful forces have worked for decades to distort our desires—making us forget that beauty was once defined by purity, presence, and purpose.
These same forces drive the porn industry, prostitution, and sex trafficking.
They want us to see ourselves as animals, not souls.
To objectify each other—and ultimately, to devalue our own dignity.
But we were made for more.
Wake up, men.
I believe that the sexualization of today’s society is not normal and was never meant to be normalized.
I believe that the “romantic feelings” women crave is the natural way men used to communicate with women when they saw them for who they really are:
Daughters, sisters, mothers.
Unique. Set apart from men.
Crafted in the image of God.
Sacred by design.
Made to be cherished, protected, and honored.
Loved to the point men would happily die for.
I believe that women’s roles as girlfriends and wives are something they should define with men TOGETHER and only AFTER men have seen them for who they really are FIRST.
I believe that young girls and adult women were never supposed to feel pressured to expose their skin like they do today.
They do this today largely because of men’s extreme failure as a whole.
Mind blown moment:
Assume you have a daughter.
1) Do you notice her if she doesn’t expose her skin and sexualize herself?
2) Does she automatically become invisible if she doesn’t sexualize herself to you?
3) When you see her sexualizing herself to other men, how does that make you feel?
4) Every woman is some father’s daughter, put yourself in his shoes, do you see now?
Unless you believe we’re just all animals that came from chimps, something must’ve stirred inside you right?
The first men and women who bonded, made covenants, and had sex together were all brothers and sisters.
If you believe adamantly that we evolved from chimps—similar to how if you just keep shaking a computer case with parts, it eventually builds a computer—or if you just let a chimp type for millions of years, they’ll get Shakespeare—then my entire being will be offensive to you. Just wanted to give you a heads up. Thank you.
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Many women sexualize themselves because it’s the only way they won’t feel invisible.
Many women don’t want to sexualize themselves and silently suffer the invisibility they experience by living a counter-cultural life, which inevitably still leads to suffering, more confusion, and a lack of fulfillment. They have felt, are feeling, and will keep feeling lost, like they don't belong.
I never saw this before.
Once my eyes were opened. I cried for all women.
Literally, tears overflowed, and they couldn't stop for many minutes.
This connection to women as a whole only happened after I started to seriously pursue desexualization.
Previously, I was just part of the herd of men fundamentally exploiting women.
I did not arrive at this state by accident.
It was intentional. I was testing a hypothesis, but had no idea this would happen as a byproduct.
After grieving for women, I became extremely angry.
The anger is not directed at humans. It’s directed at dark forces that plague the world and use men to destroy.
Men are just being used too.
We failed to let women be who they want to be.
We failed to see women’s beauty beyond their faces and bodies.
So we ignore them. Reject them. Make them feel like they’re unloved, unwanted, not worthy. So they feel alone. They feel invisible.
Is porn affecting your brain and body? TedX Talk
My own story of epic failures
I’m also a giant failure and work in progress.
I will never be perfect, but the key is striving for perfection because it is a worthy pursuit.
I have failed miserably in the past, giving into the desires of the flesh, and engaged in casualness, which leads to the destruction of the soul.
This statement is insanely false: "If it feels good, it must be right."
But we’re constantly being told to do that.
I was just like everyone else.
In fact, I was worse.
From mid-2022 to early 2023, I somehow let myself believe in the “red pill” movement, which logically seemed to make sense, and it was backed by evidence I saw. However, the key problem with it was that it never recognized that women and men had an original design that was more than just our animal (fleshly) desires.
“Red pill” has a fundamentally incorrect assumption: that humans are the same as animals and that our fleshly desires are to be trusted and are natural.
Do you see now? They want this the most:
"For humans to forget that we were once like God, perfect, and to forget that even a few thousand years ago, we all knew we were sons and daughters of God."
As of 2025, the two most effective ways of achieving this are brainwashing of two beliefs:
1. We’re just animals, nothing special, and our primitive nature is natural. Therefore, we should chase anything that feels good because if it feels good, it must be right.
2. We need logic, not emotions, and should aspire to be as logical as possible, like machines.
Sadly, most men and women will never realize that the above two beliefs are wrong.
“Red pill” does work in practice, but its evidence is only true because of both men's and women’s flaws.
At the end of the day, “red pill” protects men to some degree, but just adds more to the core problem.
If you’re a man, please, do not subscribe to the “red pill” ideology.
The better way to protect yourself from women who take advantage of your kindness is just to desexualize.
It’s counterintuitive. But it’s simply true.
Once you desexualize, if you still want to have a romantic relationship with a woman, you can now choose with significant free choice of your mind. You can finally choose women based on destiny or, at the very least, the true criteria that matter most in a long-term relationship.
When I lived the “red pill” life, I didn’t just hurt myself—I hurt the women I was with. Some were fine. But some were definitely hurt, and that pain was avoidable. I’m sorry.
If you’re having casual sex today, please pause and reflect.
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I am deeply sorry to all women. In the past, present, and future.
I will do the most impactful thing I can do to help both men and women, and later scale through other means:
1) Help men see the destructive nature and danger of porn to themselves, their family, their performance at work, and thus their career, to society, to women.
2) Provide practical help to stop using porn (completely doable despite most thinking it’s impossible) or at least minimize it.
3) Use large sums of $ to incentivize men to try and keep on trying to quit porn (TBD - need to raise money first).
For now, to quickly get value out there, please, I urge you, check out:
https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/
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From my own experience and using first principles to deduct, I believe ~80-90% of men's problems today stem from using porn.
Physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, and relational problems.
All problems.
I also believe a lot of women's problems today stem from failures of men due to the above.
This is now obvious to me.
But it was never obvious before, when I followed the herd and just went along with everything.
I have nothing to gain from sharing this here.
My number one priority in life now is:
NEVER use porn (the most dangerous drug) EVER AGAIN, and NEVER masturbate (feeds lust, which silently destroys) EVER AGAIN.
Not every man is called to my standard.
But every man can benefit.
I'm probably never sharing or writing about this outside of here, my own website.
Many will disagree.
Many will say that porn is healthy.
Many will say that quitting porn is impossible.
But think about what you know about me, my intentions, my character.
What do I have to gain by saying all this?
Why would I invest the time and effort?
Why risk haters hating on me? Actually, this part is clear. I just don’t care about haters.
But I care about you.
All I ask is this: as a man, try not to watch porn for 3 days, 7 days, 10 days, then 14 days, 30 days, 60 days, and beyond.
Run a test. Increase the time window. Repeat.
Observe and document the difference in every aspect of your life, then decide for yourself if you want to explore further or not.
Biologically, it’s a near certainty that you WILL experience a step change unlock if you stop consuming sexualized content, especially porn, for 30, 60, 90, 365 days, and beyond.
Notice how you view women after this test.
Notice how you carry a different energy.
You can use that energy to do almost anything.
But do not abuse it.
Or you will lose it.
Do not give in to temptations to do things with women that you shouldn’t.
Do not take advantage of women.
Even if women draw close to you and are genuinely attracted to you.
Even if they seduce you.
Seriously, unless you just want to revert back to being the same as other men, once you reach the new state, DO NOT make the same mistake I did and abuse it to do the very thing it was supposed to counter.
Do everything you can to not give in to sexual temptations.
Your desires will be fulfilled later to a degree you probably never even knew was possible.
This is only possible in a committed relationship and ideally in marriage.
Desexualization unlocks true intimacy.
Sex was never meant to be mainly physical.
I’m still working on myself to be able to one day find my soulmate to have this intimacy with. But I know it exists because I saw it with my spiritual eyes, which I trust more than my physical eyes.
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When I first started my fitness journey, I experienced strange things, including losing one pound per day for 15 days straight by sleeping more and eating more, with zero exercise during that period. It made no sense.
Eventually, I had a hypothesis, which has not been invalidated and is actually ancient wisdom that many on YouTube also know (I only found out 6 years after forming this hypothesis):
Hypothesis: the closer our spirit is to the Source of Life, the more easily our body reaches its ideal state.
I don’t consider myself attractive. But I know I’m a lot less physically attractive when my spirit is further from the Source of Life.
Ironically, as you draw closer to the Source of Life and back towards your original design, your physical body automatically becomes more beautiful. It wants to reach its most beautiful self because it knows that it’s the most natural expression of your spiritual self.
If you look in the mirror and don’t feel it shows who you really are, it most likely means that your spirit is lost and far from God, who knew you before birth and crafted you with His own Hands. Once you find your way back, you quickly become more whole. And you become more physically beautiful as your body reaches the physical expression of your spirit on its own.
Whenever I prioritized my spiritual well-being as number one, I never struggled or felt it was hard to become physically fit because of this hypothesis.
I wrote this in the Binary Strength Diet Guide many years ago when I first formed the hypothesis. It still holds.
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For your own and your family’s sake, as a man, please consider trying desexualization.
Once you begin to transform, if you have a girlfriend or wife, she will feel truly loved in the exact manner that she always wanted to be loved by, even if she doesn’t realize it.
She will respond back.
She will be very genuinely attracted to you.
Your romance will flourish.
Sex will be intimate.
There would be so much less tension.
Fewer arguments. Less fighting.
More intimacy, connection, love.
I wish every couple could have that and avoid unnecessary suffering.
Thank you for reading.
Watch this if your sexual desire was always much stronger than average
My Morning Routine
You are being taken advantage of and continuously brainwashed without your consent. Are you ok with this?
If not, then join me and watch this playlist daily to transform yourself back to your original design as a man. Back to Adam.
Chase the asymptote of perfection that we will never reach but should still pursue. We must transform and stay transformed through constant renewal of the mind.
"Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect." ~ Romans 12:2
As a man, once your eyes open, you can never go back again. You will probably grieve first, like I did, because you'll feel it in your bones that your old life is dead.
Then, every single aspect of your life will 10X. But you need to trust the process.
I wish you the very best my friend.